I was in a coaching session and we were talking about fear keeping them stuck. What came about was a recognition that the fear was trying protect them. It was a big aha moment, but it also really made me think about a certain ad campaign.
Just Do It
There’s a lot of people out there who talk about not letting fear stop you, living on the edge, and courage is being afraid but doing it anyways. Mmmmmm but…
Fear has steered me clear of some pretty bad situations in my lifetime. Fear has made me more situationally aware. It has also made more self-aware. Fear is a natural response to have.
Except sometimes we get trapped by the fear. We may have an old ingrained response to a current situation that doesn’t need that same level of fear. Or maybe we haven’t processed that fear in a way that is healthy or helpful.
There’s also a difference between having a little nervous anxiety around doing something and being mired in fear.
So, what can you do. First I always recommend getting help from a therapist or life coach (hey that’s me). It helps to do a body scan and to see where that fear is showing up in your body. Then stop and acknowledge the fear. Say, why hello there, I see you. Ask the fear what it needs. Check in and see what you could do to help it pull back a little bit. This may not be a one and done situation, it may be something you have to work on over some time.
I finished my certification to become a life coach months ago and yet I was really struggling to actually tell people that I was a coach available to hire. I sat with that resistance and that fear and realized that I was afraid to dream big. There hadn’t always been space in my life for dreaming and I wasn’t used to letting myself have big dreams.
You may have noticed over the last couple of months that I’ve been offering workshops and talking more about my coaching. That’s because I worked with, and through my fears. But! If I would have ‘just done it’, then I wouldn’t be showing up as my authentic self with the vision that I have in mind for my coaching.
Where is fear holding you back? How can you befriend that fear and let it know that it has done its job but you can take it from here? Where in your body are you holding that fear? Can you dance it out? I often feel it stuck in my throat- can you sing it out?
If you want to talk about that fear then schedule a free 1/2 hour with me. We can talk about life coaching and give you a little sample of it.
